Posted By lailah on January 4, 2009

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If you’re ever out in the public, chances are you may be faced with dealing with difficult people. You may have encountered an irrational and angry boss, conflict with your spouse or siblings, and maybe even a rude store clerk. Maintaining your composure during a stressful situation sometimes requires a lot of restraint on your part.

Difficult people are generally not emotionally, mentally and spiritually aligned. They don’t handle situations or people well and those around them suffer as much as they do. If you’re the victim of a person’s attacks, it may not be your fault. Their behavior could be a result of personal issues they’re facing.

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Evaluate how to start dealing with difficult people

First decide if you’re in any way contributing to the aggression. Read his behavior and decide how best to respond. Each person reacts and responds differently. For some, raising your voice is counter-productive. For others, it’s okay to raise your voice slightly in order to gradually bring his or her voice down. Many people throw their power around, but if they see you’re not easily dominated, they stop attacking you.

Ground yourself before dealing with difficult people

Visualize a light entering the top of your head and traveling down your body into the center of the earth. When a person is angry, they’re sending their energy vertically towards you. When you’re grounded, your energy is flowing up and down. Their vertical energy won’t permeate yours and have no effect. If you’re ungrounded, the chances of your energy field becoming interrupted and mixing with theirs is higher.

Visualize a white light of protection surrounding you. See their anger as little specs that bounce off you and return to the person.

Listen without becoming attached. Watch the person and listen as if you’re watching a movie. Listen to what he or she is saying without internalizing the insults. Ultimately, you’ll only become hurt if you allow the comments to cause pain. It may take practice, but you’ll get it.

Keep a positive outlook. Don’t go to work on the defensive expecting an argument. Don’t come home expecting to get in an argument with your partner. Love vibrates at a higher rate than anger. Maintain your higher vibrations and overpower theirs.

Dealing with difficult people at work

Mean bosses are probably the biggest complaints. Some people just don’t know how to manage employees, but still end up in those positions. What complaints does your boss have against you? Ask your boss to be specific about what he or she doesn’t like and to offer solutions to improve your performance. This puts your boss in a position to be more specific and productive rather than insulting.

If you implement the changes, but don’t see a change in your boss’ behavior, consider talking to him or her. Voice your concerns about feeling mistreated and set boundaries. You’re doing your best, but you won’t be a punching bag. If you feel your boss has a personal vendetta against you determine how much you’re willing to take. Quitting might be an option.

If the issue is dealing with a difficult co-worker, avoid him or her as much as possible. Considering that avoidance may not be possible, confront him or her about the situation. You may also try talking to your boss about it. Keep in mind in certain cases it’s best to handle the situation on your own rather than constantly approaching your boss about the situation. They may see you as a hassle in the company. If the person is not threatening your position with the company, then let them be. Focus on keeping yourself grounded and continue working well. If your co-worker is involving your supervisor, defend your case without attacking.

Family and Friends

Family members and friends bring with them an entirely different set of problems! It’s not often that couples, siblings, and family members get along with each other all the time. Even siblings who grow up in the same household have unique personalities which clash at times.

Avoid bringing up topics you know will ignite an argument.

Remove yourself from the situation before it gets out of hand.

Talk it out. Many times the other person doesn’t know they’re having an effect on you unless you let him or her know.

Keep social affairs to a minimum.

Remember that your personalities might just be very different. If it’s important for you to keep this person in your life, you’re going to have to accept his or her faults as the person is going to have to accept yours. Stressing yourself out only hurts you! The other party is going to continue the same behavior.

Depending on the relationship, taking them out of your life may be something to consider in an extreme situation.

As it’s inevitable to encounter difficult people, keeping your stress to a minimum is key. Ultimately your health will thank you for it.

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