When we forgive others, we are letting go of that anger and resentment we harbor. We are not excusing or condoning the behavior of the person. Forgiving someone is for you not the other person. By forgiving someone, you are giving yourself the power and ending your role as the victim.

You don’t have control over the actions of anybody else, but your own. Take the first step of controlling your thoughts and your life. You only become hurt when you silently allow yourself to be hurt. Words themselves have no power so don’t give them any.

Take Your Power Back

Do a burial ceremony. Write down a declaration to release the emotional pain caused by the person from your life. Write all the reasons you’re moving forward and taking back your power. Put all your angry thoughts and painful memories on this piece of paper. Fold it up and bury it. This is symbolic of you removing the pain from your body. Release him or her from interfering in your happiness. You are no longer a house of pain. If burying it isn’t feasible, then burn it. From this point on, you’re free!

Give the pain a shape and see it leave your body. Sometimes it’s difficult to pinpoint emotional pain, but if you’re able to gather the emotion and visualize it as a concrete form, it’s easier to release. For example: see it as a ball and send it down your body through your feet into the center of the earth. Or give it a specific color and breathe it out. Don’t worry you’re not polluting the Earth! The energy is cleared and recycled.

Continue by replacing that space in your body with a healing white light. See a loving light come down from beyond the universe and flow into the top of your head and spread throughout your body.

Say out loud that you forgive the other person. Hearing it spoken out loud and as if it’s already true has a huge impact. Whenever you are reminded of the pain, visualize yourself releasing it, then say you forgive the person for wronging you out loud.

It takes time. You’re breaking old patterns and forming newer healthier ones. You’re choosing to live in power. It’s going to take time, but it’s well worth the effort.

As each of us creates peace inside of ourselves, we emanate feelings of happiness and love causing a rippling effect.

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Has there been a time when you’ve been upset with somebody and held back your feelings? Do you not manage your stress well? Did it result in illness like a cold or possibly laryngitis? In the western world, we forget the union of the body and mind.

How to know if you need emotional healing

Each time you become hurt is an opportunity to look deeper at the root cause. Why did that bother you? Where could it have originated?

Scenario 1: Take a look at the woman who was broken up with by a man she wasn’t fully interested in. All of a sudden she’s having a hard time letting go of him and she’s extremely hurt. Perhaps it’s a bigger issue than the break-up. She may have a fear of never getting married and this rejection has become her self-fulfilling prophecy. Now she must dig deeper to find out where that fear originated.

Scenario 2: A man takes offense when a friend jokingly calls him a “dummy.” Why would this man put such value and tie such strong emotion to a word? It could be that as a young growing boy his parents called him “dummy” and told him he would never amount to anything. That word carries a lot of meaning to him.

Our influences and experiences mold our lives, but we can make a conscious decision to change our reactions and beliefs. We don’t have control over other people and the way they treat us, but we have control over ourselves.

How do you begin to heal?

Forgive. Forgiving someone for wronging you doesn’t mean you’re accepting what they did as right. When you forgive, you release the poisonous emotions that have been harboring inside you. The other person doesn’t need to know! It won’t affect him or her either way. You’re simply releasing that person from your life and letting go of the negativity you’ve kept inside which has been hurting you.

Replace. Imagine a bowl filled with water and a tall candle sits in the center. When you remove the candle from the bowl, the space it once occupied is replaced with the surrounding water. The same is true for you. When you release the anger from your body, replace it with love and light. Visualize a bright light coming from beyond the universe and entering the top of your head. Ask the Universe, or Source, or God, that you be filled with light and love.

Decide to let go. You’re forming your future so decide to live the life you want. You’ve overcome the obstacles from the past and you’ll definitely continue to overcome them in the future. Holding on to the anger and resentment is counter-productive for the life you want to lead.

Be aware. Emotional healing takes different time according to how deep or recent the wound is. Deeper wounds usually elicit habitual reactions. Pay attention to your feelings and the way you react to situations. Don’t fall back into old patterns. Instead replace them with new ones. Change takes time and effort.

Accept and love yourself. You’re here in this lifetime and in this body so make the most of it! Move forward and design your life for the better

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